Self Image: Why do we think we suck?
Listen to those horrible little words you tell yourself, that negative self talk. Imagine telling someone else those same words. You wouldn’t, right!?You would be afraid of hurting their feelings, knocking them down. So please give yourself a break, show love to yourself.
How can I Break Free from These Self Image Killers?
- Perfectionism-do you think you need to be perfect, do you wait until everything is just right then end up freezing and not moving forward. Just do it!
- I always want to try new things. But I want to be great at it right away. If I am not, I give up and move on to the next thing. These things take practice, writing it here makes me realize just how silly that is.
- Comparing yourself to others, there will always be someone prettier, smarter, more put together. Compare your today to your yesterday. See how far you have come.
- Love what makes you, you. Yes even what you perceive as flaws. That is what makes you special.
- Negative self talk-when you find yourself thinking critical thoughts about yourself, stop immediately
- List your strengths- Ask a friend what your strengths are, ask yourself, “What do I do well?”
- Make sure you get enough sleep, it is difficult to stay positive when you are tired.
- Exercise-make some goals, keep them small at first but achieving them will make you feel good about yourself.
- When someone compliments you on something, say thank you. Don’t come up with all the flaws that would cancel out the compliment.
Why do I feel this way?
Why is it that some people come from a terrible childhood and make it big yet others are still blaming everything on their parents. Blaming things on your parents is lame, they did the best they could. Of course there are many exceptions.
If you blame someone else you give them the power, the power to change. I think it is because at a very young age some people realize that no one is going to help them and if they want to get ahead, they must step up and go at it themselves. I have heard people moaning, “That’s not fair!” My reply to that is to suck it up, life isn’t fair. The whole world is not against you, they are not plotting against you. For the most part, they world is thinking about their own issues. I heard it put one way- what people think about you is none of your business! Don’t make it your business either.
I was just reading that many people who have said belittling things or gave you “the look” have issues themselves. After all, in order to push you down, they must come down themselves.
Use the words: “I choose to_______” instead of helpless phrases like “I can’t because_________” or “I am like this because of_________”. You have a choice. You decide the circumstances.
It is up to you to change. Love yourself, if you don’t no one will!